Scared of what people might say if you do this or that? Most people do. We sweat the big stuff and the small ones as well. What will people say about me if I choose to follow this career path instead of another to what will people say if I chose this hairstyle instead of that?
Question is, who are ‘these’ people we keep worrying about?
An interesting article in this very same subject reads, “We all want to be liked. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be admired, approved of and praised. Or is there?,” the author pauses
Here are 4 reasons why you shop worrying sick of what people are thinking about you.
1. What people think of you is none of your business
The more you care about people’s opinion, the more their opinion is going to affect you. If your core belief is based on what other people think, their opinions will eventually become your reality.
Do you really want to mould yourself into people’s impression of you? Do you really want to make people’s expectations your priority? Do you want to unconsciously be setting yourself limits based on people’s opinion of you?
People are completely free to think what they want about you, just like you are completely free to think what you want about them. And just like what you think is no one else’s business but yours, what other people think is no one else’s business but theirs – even if it is about you
2. People don’t care nearly as much as you think they do
You are going to be gossiped about, you are going to be judged and you are going to be criticized But the thing is that no matter how much people may gossip about you, judge you, or criticize you, we are all pretty self-centered, whether we admit it or not.
It may not necessarily be in a bad or selfish way, but we do tend to give a great deal of importance to ourselves. So the probability is that while you’re busy worrying about what they think of you, they are too busy worrying about themselves to give you any real importance at all.
3. You don’t need everyone’s approval
Being liked, being admired and being praised feels incredible. Gaining someone’s approval through something you’ve done or said is a really great feeling. But since you cannot control anyone’s thoughts, it will eventually drive you insane.
Well, you know what? You don’t need approval as much as you think you do. While being liked feels amazing, what feels even better is being able to accept the fact that some people are going to dislike you no matter what, and being absolutely okay with it because you couldn’t care less.
4. The people who mind don’t matter and the people who matter don’t mind
Once you impress one person, you’re going to want another person’s approval, and once you get that person’s approval you’re going to want to make some other person like you and so on.
Why bother with them when there are people who like you, and will continue to like you just the way you are?
Sometimes we are so focused on people who don’t matter that we end up neglecting the people who do. These are people who are going to support you, care about you and be there for you no matter what.
The author concludes by adding that, “The idea isn’t to stop caring completely – it’s to stop caring enough to be able to make your own decisions based on your priorities, your values and your ambitions and not other people’s opinions.”
Courtesy: YouQueen
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